Thursday, March 26, 2009

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

The Five Love Languages is a practical book for improving one’s marriage. It points out that different things are more meaningful than others when it comes to expressing love but they are different for different people. Loving acts can fall into the following five basic categories:

  • words of affirmation
  • quality time
  • acts of service
  • gifts
  • physical touch

Once you determine what your mate’s primary love language is, you can work at keeping them feeling loved more effectively. It’s also good to determine your own primary love language and let your mate know. Several things I plan to implement after reading this book are:

  1. Focus on encouraging, complimenting and using kind words every day when speaking to my husband.

  2. Have a sharing time each day where we each share three things that happened to us that day and how we feel about them.

  3. Make a list of things we want to do together and do at least two per month.

  4. Plan a new event with strong memory potential and do it this year.

  5. Play “fill your tank” game. Ask spouse three times a week how full his love tank is on range of 0-10 and ask what I can do to fill it up today.

I had a hard time determining my primary love language because really my husband does all these things so I feel very loved. Here is a quiz you can take to help determine which one is most meaningful to you. By answering some concrete questions, for my physical touch was definitely my primary language and three of the others were tie. I was also surprised to find out that Gerard's primary love language is quality time. Guess I'll have to get off the computer earlier in the evenings!

Want to find out what your primary love language is and more importantly, your mate's? Click here to take the quiz.


The Author said...

I'm off to take the quiz. Thank you for sharing this information with us. Being kind to the partner in our lives is so important. We should always cherish our marriages and put our best foot forward there. Thank you Karen.

P.S. - I'm glad you are feeling better.

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