Showing posts with label mothers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mothers. Show all posts

Sunday, May 8, 2011

A Letter To Mom Because I Can't Write Poems (Writer's Workshop)

Dear Mom,

I miss you so much and so often. You were the best mom I could ever want and if I could have hand picked a mom, it would be you! You were always supportive to me and very giving. I admired your tact and your wisdom. You were so smart yet you never made me feel dumb or stupid. I'll always be grateful to you for advising me to combine the secretarial skill classes with the college bound courses. They served me well.

I had so much admiration for you when you welcomed three foster children into our family and gave them a loving home and took on all that extra responsibility. I thought it was wonderful how you helped Pam with her accounting and John with his math so he didn't need to attend summer school. You put up with so much extra heartache by doing this that you could have easily avoided, but you wanted to make a difference for them, and you did! I never had any children, but like you, I am still teaching Sunday School. I loved being your helper growing up and learned a lot from you about teaching and motivating kids to learn. I did think about being a foster parent or adopting but I married so late, it just would not have been practical and Gerard never expressed any interest in doing it.

I loved our late night talks when I would lean against your soft arms on the couch. You being overweight never bothered me or embarrassed me. You were heavy, but never looked sloppy. I loved how you would stick out your false teeth just to be silly sometimes! You had a wonderful sense of humor and I loved how we shared inside jokes and would crack up at the same things.



Sunday, May 10, 2009

Things My Mother Taught Me and What I Miss

A mother is such a special, influential person in someone's life. My mom went to be with the Lord December 2, 1999 and I miss her. We were very close and I wish she were still alive, although it was always hard knowing what to buy her for Mother's Day. My mom and I always got along great, even through my teen years. We laughed a lot!

Things My Mom Taught Me:


How to subtract 9, 8 & 7 quickly and check subtraction by adding
How to make pumpkin pie
How to keep a scorecard for baseball
How to catch a ball
How to prioritize
How to memorize the books of the Bible
Don't take advantage of people
Give myself options in choosing courses
Do a job right
Share what you have with others
Don't judge people by their looks

How to play these games:


Monopoly
Canasta
Mah Jong
Scrabble
Rook
Muggins
Flinch
(I taught her poker and Pinochle)

Things Mom and I Used to Do together:


Shop for clothes.
Watch the soap opera, "Guiding Light."
Watch sports on TV.
Bowled.
Attended Mother-Daughter Banquets.
Attended TOPS Awards Banquet.
Plan youth group meetings for church.
Work on crafts for Hobby Club.
My mom was overweight so very, very soft. Loved snuggling up against her and talking late into the night.
I'd bring her home library books and she'd read them in her old age.

One of the best gifts I gave her was a letter telling her how much she meant to me. It wasn't for any special occasion, just an assignment I had to do that was in an AWANA book I was working through, but it meant so much to her. I came across it when I was clearing out my dad's house after he died. She had saved it in one of her drawers. I wish I had saved it, but didn't. At that point I was just so tired of going through everything that I just wanted to get the job done and figured I didn't know where I'd put it anyway.

What do (or did) you do with your mom? What did your mom teach you? If you are a mom, what would you most want for Mother's Day? Today is Mother's Day and I wish everyone a happy day.


Sunday, May 18, 2008

Remembering Mom

Mother's day is always a bit tough for me because my mom went to be with the Lord. Her name was Lenore. She was a wonderful mother and I loved her so much. Although I wrote "My Funny Dad, Harry" about my dad, I was actually closer to my mom. We always got along well, even through those teenage years. Growing up, I thought my parents were over protective, but looking back, I see they just couldn't help it--they loved me so much.

It was my mom who encouraged me to try new things. She got me a puppy to get me over the fear of dogs, paid for piano lessons because she never was able to have any, taught me how to do puzzles, play games (she especially liked scrabble and Canasta), shared her love for reading and baseball with me, and watched movies and Guiding Light together too. She was my biggest supporter and gave me good advice about what classes to take in school. I took business classes along with the college prep track and after trying teaching for a year as a sub, became a legal secretary which is what mom thought I should do all along.

I remember we'd stay up late and talk and talk about everything (sometimes until 2 or 2:30 a.m.)! She was very easy to talk to and always was a good listener. She let me lean against her like a big pillow. I wish I started reading books sooner because now as I read, I wish I could discuss them with her. She never used a computer, but when I go on pogo or Shelfari, I always think how much she would enjoy those sites as well.

She was always a Sunday School teacher as long as she was physically able and I saw her love for the Lord. We lived in a suburb and moved to the city to be close to the church so us kids could be active in the youth group since she did not drive and my dad worked second shift. I was on the reserved side personality wise but when the youth group started a quiz team on books of the Bible and quizzed against kids from other churches within our denomination, it was my mom who again encouraged me to participate. I loved it and was good at it! Later, when I was a youth group leader, I got quizzing going again and was the "coach."She let me be her helper when she did crafts with kids in our hobby club at church and later when she worked with Jr. Highers, again she let me assist her.

We were different in many ways. She was heavy set, I was always thin. She was very emotional and sensitive, I was more even tempered. She could sing, I couldn't carry a tune. She loved to read, I only read what I had to for school, if that. She sewed and did needlepoint, I wanted nothing to do with it.

On the other hand, we were usually on the same wave length and would laugh at the same things. She would have some fun with her false teeth by pushing them out sometimes, just to make me laugh. She always talked about writing a novel but never did, I am the one who wrote the book. I teach Sunday School now just like she used to.

There's so much more I could write, but I don't want this blog entry to become a book, so I'll just stop here. I still think of her often, especially on Mother's Day, but really just about every day.
Mom died of congestive heart failure Dec. 2, 1999 at age 75 which I include in my book "My Funny Dad, Harry" to show what a wonderful husband he was. I am truly blessed to have had such good parents and I miss them both, love them always.

Be sure to be nice to your mom and cherish the time you have with her.